By Edwin Christiaan | May 14, 2019

My task as a husband is to be the head of my wife, as Christ is the head and the Savior of the church, which is His own body. In other words, as a husband I must provide leadership to my wife just the way Christ does to His church, not by domineering but by cherishing. 

It means that I should love my wife as much as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it. He made the church holy by the power of His word, and He made it pure by washing it with water. Christ did this, so He would have a glorious and holy church, without faults or spots or wrinkles or any other flaws. 

I should love my wife as much as I love myself. The Bible says that a husband who loves his wife shows that he loves himself. No one hates or abuses his own body. No, he feeds and takes good care of it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of His body. 

This is why a man leaves his father and mother and cherishes his wife. They are no longer two, but they have become “one flesh.” This provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself by loving her.

It for this reason that I must love my wife as much as I love myself. (See Ephesians 5:21-33)

Yes, I must love my wife and not abuse her. (See Colossians‬ ‭3:19‬) 

I should be thoughtful of my wife, treating her with honor, because she isn’t as strong as I am, and she shares with me in God’s gift of new life. If I treat her as I should, nothing will stand in the way of my prayers. (See 1. Peter‬ ‭3:7‬)‬