First of all, in order for you to have the evil spirit of Jezebel, you must be a woman! Why is this?
Jesus made this very clear while admonishing the church of Thyatira. He told them:
“But I have this complaint against you. You are permitting that woman—that Jezebel who calls herself a prophet—to lead my servants astray.” Revelations 2:20 NLT
Here is Jesus specifically emphasizing the word “THAT”; you are permitting “THAT WOMAN” – that Jezebel, that is because Jesus was referring to the infamous wicked woman ‘Queen Jezebel’ from the Old Testament days, who was known for undermining the authority of her husband King Ahab, by controlling and manipulating him and taking over his leadership. (See 1. Kings 21)
The reason the Jezebel Spirit only pertains to women is because men have been given natural authority from God, it’s not something they would need to fight to get, they already have it as the Bible says, “But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” 1. Corinthians 11:3 NLT
Women, on the other hand, have not been given that same authority, and they would need tools to try to take that position of leadership that the man has. This is where the Jezebel Spirit comes in. A demon will come to a woman presenting different tools she can use to gain power over the man. These tools are, among many others: manipulation, control, domination and seduction. For a wounded or scorned woman, these tools come as a temptation she cannot resist, and she grabs them, and starts using them. This is the moment she opens the door to become possessed by the demonic spirit that promises to provide her with everything she needs to accomplish her goal. She may or may not even be aware of what a devastating spirit she has just welcomed into her life.
When a man seems to be using some of the same tools as the Jezebel woman does, it is not because he has the Jezebel Spirit, but rather a power-hungry spirit that comes from being an extremely wounded individual, who has most likely been abused in one way or another and need to control and manipulate his circumstances out of fear of being hurt again.
Secondly, in order to be a woman operating in the Jezebel Spirit in the realm of the church, you need to be able to teach people to commit sexual sin and make them idolize and worship you and lead them away from a relationship with Jesus Christ. To do that, they must follow your false teachings (deeper truths,’ as they are called—depths of Satan, actually). (See Revelation 2:20+24)
Thirdly, to have the Jezebel Spirit, you must be a narcissist, someone who is not able or willing to admit any wrongdoing. You think you are never wrong and therefore you will never repent or take any ownership! As Jesus said it: “I gave her time to repent, but SHE DOES NOT WANT to turn away from her immorality.” Revelation 2:21 NLT