So many pastors have bad marriages, and yet they continue to teach the church how to obtain God’s breakthrough in their personal lives and be blessed! How in the world is that possible?

Let me explain.

First of all, the Scriptures clearly teach, that a pastor must manage his own family well, having children who respect and obey him.  For if a man cannot manage his own household, how can he take care of God’s church? (See 1. Timothy 3:4-5)

Now, what you often see from pastors who have bad marriages is that their wives are not submissive to them, but instead they dominate and take authority over them. These ambitious wives are basically the ones who are leading the church (behind the scenes), teaching and instructing the men. This is the exact opposite of what the apostle Paul taught, namely that,

“Women should learn quietly and submissively. I do not let women teach men or have authority over them!”1. Timothy 2:10-11 NLT

It is no wonder, that there is so much confusion and disorder in the church! The Bible says,

“For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.” James 3:16 NLT

Furthermore, the Bible says, that the wives of pastors must be respected and must not slander others. They must exercise self-control and be faithful in everything they do! (See 1. Timothy 3:11)

“For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do!” 1. Timothy 2:10 NLT